On friends

You know what they say about friend, teman ketawa senang dicari, teman masa susah sukar dijumpa. Or something like that I think.. It's more of a saying that an idiom I guess; the words doesn't quite flow right.

Anyway.

Do you think there's something wrong with someone if he were to tell you that he's having it the other way around. Is it possible for a person to, not have that much of a friend to hang out with and have a laugh over a few cups of tea while having lost count the number of times having people around him or, being around people through severe odds?

Society often praises these kawan masa susah types. Them, sometimes appearing out of the blue without needing to be told and stick around regardless what, expecting nothing in return. Ahh.. the virtue of selflessness. Then again, how many times have we sat down and think about this: are our kawan masa susah also there with us when we are laughing our heads off?

Or do we pick up the phone to call them when the time comes?

Then comes the next question: are we a kawan masa susah to our kawan masa susah? Because, you know it's never a one way street right? It takes two to tango or as someone who liberally use it, bertepuk sebelah tangan.

In the end, I remember my friend, Khalis Nazib (Hi Nageb, hang sihat?) said sometime ago: friendship is like a flower, you have to water it to make it grow. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Sure, there are many jerks and assholes out there but surely there are those few lucky people that you will not regret knowing and will keep on being friends no matter what.

No matter what.

So yeah, thank you. Thank you and sorry. We are all a work in progress.